I have been M.I.A for a while and that’s simply because wedding planning is trying to kill me. I know planning a wedding is generally stressful but wedding planning in Lagos must be on another level. There’s so much to think about at all times. I really have no interest in weddings and now I’m being asked about colours? Themes?? Bridesmaids dresses??? Things I didn’t even realise needed to be thought about. I began the planning process in April even though I got engaged in March. The first thing I did based on the advice I got from others and the good people of the internet, was to hire a wedding planner. I thought it would be great because I HATE stress. I know nobody loves it but it’s like a disease to me. It takes away my sleep, my peace of mind, my appetite (haha, I’m kidding, I’ve never been too stressed to eat). When I was looking for a planner, I probably sent an email to like 10 Instagram wedding planners. I was shocked to say the least. I saw prices as high as 2 million Naira and as low as N500,000. I decided on one because she was polite and flexible with her prices. I also loved the pictures of the weddings she had on her page. It’s been about 5 months since and I’ve met with my planner just once or twice but we whatsapp when I need her. It’s not her fault but what I’ll advice is, go for a wedding planner that’s not just a one-man operation. Go for one that you know will be dedicated to you. Also, don’t be fooled by Instagram. I’ll suggest you avoid Instagram if you’re on a budget because they can make you feel poor.
The second thing we did was to secure a hall. This wasn’t hard because we did it with months to spare. 8 months to our wedding actually. I knew I wanted this hall because it had a garden and it’s large so we sorted it out in a few days. As soon as we got the hall, we started looking for a decorator and they are expensive! (I know this is the point I keep harping on about but I mean, I was shocked at how much weddings cost in general). If you are like me, you’ve been saving pictures to your Instagram collections and adding to your pintrest boards. You’ve been following Nwandossignature events, ballevents, btgdecor, aquariantouch etc. If I ever find myself in the wedding business, it’ll probably be in décor after I heard how much money they charge. I decided to call them myself because I was afraid my planner would introduce me to decorators that will charge me my annual salary. The highest price I recall was 2.5 million Naira and the cheapest was about a million. I eventually had to go to my wedding planner to save me. We were able to find a fantastic decorator, who I thought was a bit pricey too but the decor is not something I want to be cheap about. I honestly don’t care if food does’t go round, as long as their selfies are lit. Hahaha.
Third thing was to secure a make up artist. I had already done my homework so I knew that the Instagram make up artists that I follow weren’t affordable for me. So I started calling. I called about 5 make up artists and they were already booked for the date. A date 8 months away?!?! Sigh. So my wedding planner called her contacts and we are able to find one that I liked and I paid my deposit immediately to avoid wahala. (The make up artist has changed now but this is gist for another day).
After this, my wedding planner brought to my attention that I hadn’t gotten a photographer and videographer and these also get booked pretty fast in Lagos. I emailed and called about 20 photographers and I’m not exaggerating. I think my problem is I have Dom Pérignon tastes but Andre budget. So as you can guess, those that I initially messaged were in their millions to 700 thousand. These are fine prices too but still out of budget. I accepted my fate and messaged some that I also liked and were really good. I had so many options and it was tough making a decision but I did and I love who we went with. My other option is a young man whose pictures are stunning. He’s very easy to talk to, understanding, and affordable too. I highly recommend this photographer. He is @806photography on Instagram. Getting the videographer was easy. Not much to be said there.
I’ll continue my rant in another post. Thank you for reading!