Colouring outside the lines – Embracing my nicheless blog

My sweet nicheless blog

Before I begin, what is a niche? A Niche in blogging refers to creating a blog that is focused on specific content for a specific target audience. It is usually on one topic, weddings, fashion, parenting etc.

When I started this blog in 2015 (OMG), I struggled to find a niche. I strongly believed it was about writing what people wanted to read. I had difficulty trying to pin point what people wanted to read or what tone of voice I should use. Initially, my blog posts were about my relationship misadventures and things like that because I was a single lady and it would be fun to talk about my mishaps so people could find some joy in my misfortune. I wrote and kept my blog secret until one day, I was discovered by my husband while we were dating and I felt so embarrassed that I had talked about terrible love life in such detail. I felt that wasn’t who I was anymore and deleted the blog posts and left a few random ones.

I was stumped. I had no inspiration to write. I didn’t post for about a year and I came back slowly. Most of the blogs/vlogs that I follow are beauty/fashion focused and I knew I didn’t want to do that because my make up skills are shit and my fashion is guided by comfort. I wanted to write about things with the right buzz words to be seen and then I got this great epiphany: Just write! And it was that simple. I feel so much happier now that I’m no longer worried about what niche I should belong to. And now I can write about what I’m most passionate about: ME! I’m just going to write and I hope whoever finds this blog loves it as much as I love it.

Don’t let post wedding blues get you down

Post wedding blues

I’ve always believed that your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. I fully bought into this idea especially because I married the love of my life so of course it must be the greatest and happiest day ever. I had a vision for what the day would be like but the reality was so far from it. I remember at the end of the day at about 8pm, I was sitting in the best man’s car, waiting for my husband to be done so we could finally end the day and I just started crying. At that point, I was believed I had a truly miserable day. I still felt so bad a few days after then I did some research and discovered that what I was feeling was post wedding blues.

We had our wedding ceremony 9 months after we got engaged. I started planning almost immediately. I talked and thought of different aspects of this day almost every day for 9 months. I was so scared things would go wrong so I handed over many things to my Mother and I only thought about things that concerned my husband and I or my bridesmaids.

The weeks leading up to the wedding were so stressful because I had left most things to the last minute. I only got my dress 2 days before the wedding. My shoes didn’t arrive until the day before and I had a terrible cold on my wedding week.

We had our traditional, garden ceremony and reception on the same day. I knew this would be stressful but I had no idea. I started my day at 5.30am and by the time I was done, I didn’t get a chance to take a picture with my husband before we left the hotel. Looking back now, I wish we had relaxed and taken lots of pictures.

There was a subjectively terrible experience during the garden ceremony. This coupled with the fact that we had the ceremony outside at 2pm in the burning heat of Lagos was a bad idea. I cried all through the ceremony so there are also no pictures of us together during this part. Precious moments that weren’t captured.

Things started to get better during the reception. I was finally having fun. There were a few mishaps here too but because of the garden experience, these didn’t seem too bad. I was finally done with the ceremony. Finally, I am Mrs O.

It wasn’t until I had the breakdown in my car before the regrets came to me. I was sad because I felt we had spent too much money. I spent too much money on irrelevant things. I felt sad because of the pictures I didn’t get with my husband. Angry because somebody complained to me that she didn’t get desert. There were no fireworks during our first dance. I was too bloated and looked pregnant all day. I was angry with my dad for embarrassing me. I shouldn’t have used a wedding planner. So many other things I won’t mention because I don’t want to think about it. It has been a month and almost 2 weeks since the wedding. I’m not so sad about it but still a tiny bit angry sha, I won’t lie. Here are a few tips that have helped me feel better. I hope they can help you too

  • Remember that this is the beginning not the end. A lot of the sadness comes from the wedding being over but it’s only the beginning of a wonderful adventure as a wife. Think about this instead and look forward to future plans, anniversaries, birthdays, babies etc.
  • Unfollow all the wedding pages! I’m serious. It was one of the first things I did when I realized I had the blues and it helped me a lot was to unfollow all the wedding pages I used as inspiration for months leading to the wedding. Now that my timeline is relatively normal, I don’t see other people’s weddings and feel a twinge of jealousy.
  • Look at your friend’s photos and videos of the day. I don’t know how but this helped me so much because they were taken from an unprofessional perspective and captured real and truly happy moments
  • You can’t change anything by thinking about it. The sooner you accept, the better for your peace of mind
  • It is normal to feel this way. It’s just a wedding day not a reflection of your marriage

 

Just enjoy being married.

Look forward and don’t back 😉

TV Shows I’m rooting for at the 2017 EMMY awards

The 2017 Emmy awards is airing this Sunday, September 17 and I’m so excited because one of my faves, Stephen Colbert will be hosting. I’m also really excited because some shows I feel strongly about have been nominated. Westworld was all I could talk about while it was on, it is sincerely one of the best shows made and kept me on my toes throughout the season. So it’s no surprise it had the most nominations across the board at 22. I just finished watching Stranger things this August and I honestly wasn’t so impressed. I think my expectations were too high and it was a bit too horrific for me so I was surprised to see it had the third highest number of nominations with 18 nominations across board. I guess you guys really liked the show.

I’m about to go in with my picks to win a few categories. I suggest you get comfy with my Emmy viewing snack of choice, Waffles, a tribute to Eleven (Break out star of Stranger things). Here’s a link to a simple yet delicious recipe for waffles. All the items can be easily found in any Nigerian supermarket

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Comfy? Okay, let’s begin.

WESTWORLD

Westworld is a science fiction western thriller based on the 1973 film of the same name, which was written and directed by American novelist Michael Crichton. The first season had only ten episodes. Season 2 will debut sometime in 2018.

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The story takes place in an amusement park with very human like android hosts. They are so lifelike that once can’t tell the difference between human and the hosts by their appearance. The park is wild west themed so expect a few cowboys and other wild west tropes. The guests at the park can do anything in Westworld without consequences so you can imagine the wild adventures they can get up to. This was one of my favourite shows this year so I guess it goes without saying that Westworld is my pick to win in the drama series category. The other nominees in the category are

This Is Us
The Crown
The Handmaid’s Tale
The Leftovers
House of Cards
Stranger Things
Better Call Saul

I think this will be a really tough category because all these shows are awesome but I think the competition is mostly between This is us, Stranger things and Westworld. Westworld is my choice to win but I have a feeling it’ll go to This is Us.

Evan Rachel Wood (the beautiful Dolores) was nominated in the Drama actress category. Fingers crossed for her but I really don’t see her winning this because the other nominees are so strong. I see it going to Elisabeth Moss (the handmaid’s tale) or Viola Davis (How to get away with murder).

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Dolores Abernathy and William

There were two stand out performers in the show. The first being from Bernard (Jeffrey Wright) with the plot twist for the ages. No one saw it coming. I don’t want to go into details about it but I highly recommend this show. And he is my pick for the Supporting Actor in a drama for his stellar performance. Other nominees in this category are

John Lithgow, The Crown
Ron Cephas Jones, This Is Us
Mandy Patinkin, Homeland
Jonathan Banks, Better Call Saul
David Harbour, Stranger Things
Michael Kelly, House of Cards

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Bernard (Left)

The second stand out performer was Maeve (Thandie Newton). Her acting was so real and felt so raw sometimes. Maeve is an android host and one of the first to question her reality. And become self aware. I strongly believe Thandie will win the Supporting actress category. She was outstanding. Other nominees in this category are

Uzo Aduba, Orange Is the New Black
Millie Bobby Brown, Stranger Things
Ann Dowd, The Handmaid’s Tale
Chrissy Metz, This Is Us
Samira Wiley, The Handmaid’s Tale

Veep

Veep is an political satire comedy TV show starring Julia Louis-Dreyfus. It is as an adaptation of the British sitcom The Thick of It. The series follows Selina Meyer,a fictional Vice President, and (briefly) the President, of the United States. The series follows the adventures of her and her team member’s funny and sometimes unfortunate attempts to make a mark. The last season aired from April – June 2017. Its final season will premiere in 2018.

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It was nominated in the Comedy category and I think this is another tough category because all the shows nominated are all amazing but I have to say, Veep is the most outstanding. It’s one of the best TV shows ever written. Selina Meyer is consistently an Idiot and Gary is the star of the show. Veep will win this category. Shout out to Titus Andromedon (Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt), it must be a lot of work carrying the show on your back. Other nominees in the comedy cateegoty are

Atlanta
Black-ish
Master of None
Modern Family
Silicon Valley
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Gary (Tony Hale and Mike (Matt Walsh ) were nominated in the supporting actor category. Gary is the winner for me in this category. Other nominees in  this category are

Louie Anderson, Baskets
Alec Baldwin, Saturday Night Live
Tituss Burgess, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt
Ty Burrell, Modern Family
Julia Louis-Dreyfus (Selina Meyer) is also my pick to win in the comedy actress category. The other nominees in this category are

Pamela Adlon, Better Things
Jane Fonda, Grace and Frankie
Allison Janney, Mom
Ellie Kemper, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt
Tracee Ellis Ross, Black-ish
Lily Tomlin, Grace and Frankie

 

Big little lies

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This mini series is based on a phenomenal book written by the magnificent Liane Moriarty. I fell in love with the book and I fell even deeper in love with the miniseries. Everyone involved did such a great job, the child actors, professional actors, the directing and even the music selection was remarkable. This is the clear winner for me in the limited/mini series category. Please watch it if you haven’t already. Other nominees in this category are
Fargo
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Genius
The Night Of

The stand out performance for me was from Alexander Skarsgard. He played Perry, a violet and hypersexual married to Nichole Kidman’s character. He was the worst and he played the role so well I’m still trying not to picture him as a demon. He will definitely win the best supporting actor in a  TV MOVIE/LIMITED SERIES. If he doesn’t, I’ll shave my head (of course not but that’s how sure i am). The other nominees in his category are

Bill Camp, The Night Of
Alfred Molina, Feud: Bette and Joan
David Thewlis, Fargo
Stanley Tucci, Feud: Bette and Joan
Michael Kenneth Williams, The Night Of

 

Thanks for reading! Please comment your favourites and picks to win in the 2017 Emmy awards, I really want to know your thoughts xx

 

 

 

Standard “I’m back” Post


So, I’m back by popular demand (haha, not really. Nobody reads this blog. Apart from me, obviously).

Although it has been a few months since my last post, this blog has been constantly on my mind but a lot of things have changed since the time I started the blog and now (things like me no longer being single and starting my natural hair journey. More to come). My life now functions with the same sequence as if it’s an assembly line. I barely have time to be the spontaneous chap I used to be (Lies, I am the opposite of spontaneous. What does that even mean?)

Oh well, here I am. I will start small and not make elaborate promises but one thing is might be sure. I will may be posting here weekly!

Thank you for your time.