My current skincare routine

Just like most people, I love a good skincare routine even though I’m lazy. I’m also a self professed skincare product hoarder and  it’s always a huge task for me to go into a shop without picking up even the smallest skincare item. My laziness and hoarding tendencies mean that I have so much to use but wont and then just use Funbact A for like a week and feel beautiful even though I know that’s not the best.  However, I just made a huge move (I moved from Lagos, Nigeria to Germany) and I didn’t want to take all of my precious products. I also wanted to take better care of my skin and cut out steroid creams and my other bad skin habits. A few weeks before I moved, I got rid of most of my beautiful skincare “investments” that I had acquired over the years and decided to just stick to a basic routine with my most essential products. I must admit that my skincare routine is constantly evolving and growing. In the future, I will talk about my latest additions but for now I will talk about what i’m currently using.

My ultimate skincare goal is to have clear, bright, glowing and spotless skin (Who doesn’t want this) but hormones wont let me have peace. Last year, I started using birth control pills and my skin was never the same. This was surprising because according to my internet research, BCPs usually help peoples skin and not destroy it. I’m off BCPs for now so the purpose of this is to get my skin back to its former glory without breaking the bank without using products like Retinol, Salicylic acid etc (wink wink). I’ll just go through a typical day for me.

Cetaphil cleanser and Exfoliating brush

Cleansing tools

Every morning, I wash my face with the Cetaphil gentle skin cleanser. I use my TouchBeauty exfoliating brush before I wash it off the shower. While my face is still damp, I use Thayers Alcohol-Free Rose Petal Witch Hazel Toner and then as soon as it dries off, I use the Fruit of the Earth’s Aloe Vera gel. I always wanted to incorporate Aloe Vera into my skin care routine because as a child, My mum grew Aloe Vera plants and was always using it on her skin and she always had good skin so I always looked at it as a miracle plant. I never got round to getting an Aloe Vera plant myself so I found out about this product on Youtube. I never tried to look for it but I was so happy when I found it at Hubmart! One thing I always seem to forget is that it’s a gel, even though 100% gel is written boldly on the bottle, I keep forgetting that it really is just a gel and can get dry on the skin. I hate the dryness of the gel after it dries so I always moisturize right after. Another thing to note about this product is that it says 100% gel and not 100% Aloe Vera gel so it has a lot more ingredients than expected. I always follow the Aloe Vera gel with moisturizer and I’m currently using the Bebe young care intensivpflege für trockene haut. I like this moisturizer because it does the job. My skin feels so smooth and soft after it.

Current Moisturizer

 

On days I use makeup, I first take it off with wipes. Honestly, any regular wipes will do. I don’t see the big deal in wipes, as long as it’s not dry, any wipes will do for me. I then proceed to take the rest of my makeup off with the AVÈNE cleansing foam. This cleanser really gets every single bit of makeup off and is so smooth at the same time.

 

For the rest of my body, I use the Neutrogena light sesame body oil. I’ve been repurchasing this since 2014 and I believe I will always use this. It’s so easy to put on, light and very moisturizing. You won’t even remember you put it on but you will see the glow! It works best right after a shower on your damp skin. Best body oil ever!

Neutrogena Light Sesame Body Oil

And that’s all I’ve done to my skin for weeks and the results have been obvious. There’s a big difference in how it looks and feels. The Witch Hazel toner especially is here to stay in my skin care routines from now on. I’m not a professional by any means. This is just what has been working for me so far. What’s your skincare routine like? Please leave comments to let me know what you think or have any suggestions. Thank you!

How to survive long distance relationships

Happy black woman

Recently, my husband’s friend relocated to the Netherlands, leaving behind his girlfriend of two years and I felt so sad for her because I could relate. I’ve been in a long distance relationship for about 11 months now (We’ve been legally married for 9 months). It’s been tough for me because since my husband and I started talking, we saw each other every day. Sometimes twice a day if he took me to work and took me back home so he was a huge part of my daily life. I didn’t think I would survive this but somehow, I have. We will still be long distance for a few more weeks but the end is on the horizon. If I could do it, you can do. Here’s how:

  • Determine if he/she is worth waiting for. When you are sure they are feeling the same way you do, then things are easier already. When you are away from each other, there will be uncertainties that if they are not properly addressed, they can grow into legit problems.
  • Have something to look forward to. When my husband moved 7,061.2 km away, I had things to look forward to. We had an upcoming trip to Mauritius and we were also legally getting married in 2 months so I had these thoughts to keep me warm at night.
  • Trust each other. This is rather obvious but with the distance and time difference that may exist, you just need to trust each other. He/She loves you and if they haven’t made you doubt this, then don’t just accuse them because you thought you saw a Tinder notification on their phone (cough cough).
  • Communicate regularly. This was important to me because I saw him every evening where he basically recapped his day to me. After he moved, I didn’t want this to stop so we still Facetime each night and tell each other about our days. Even though we still make small talk during the day. This helped me greatly, maybe it’ll work for you too. If not, you can still find a way to communicate that both of you can agree to.
  • Surprise each other. Be very attentive and look for opportunities to surprise each other. This is something my husband is great at. He is very attentive and listens to me and tries to surprise me anyway he can, from organizing for flowers to my place of work and even showing up unexpectedly at my door. These surprises show me that he really cares and makes my day/week/month.

I believe long distance can work if you want it to, even though there are situations where it doesn’t but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give it a try.

Colouring outside the lines – Embracing my nicheless blog

My sweet nicheless blog

Before I begin, what is a niche? A Niche in blogging refers to creating a blog that is focused on specific content for a specific target audience. It is usually on one topic, weddings, fashion, parenting etc.

When I started this blog in 2015 (OMG), I struggled to find a niche. I strongly believed it was about writing what people wanted to read. I had difficulty trying to pin point what people wanted to read or what tone of voice I should use. Initially, my blog posts were about my relationship misadventures and things like that because I was a single lady and it would be fun to talk about my mishaps so people could find some joy in my misfortune. I wrote and kept my blog secret until one day, I was discovered by my husband while we were dating and I felt so embarrassed that I had talked about terrible love life in such detail. I felt that wasn’t who I was anymore and deleted the blog posts and left a few random ones.

I was stumped. I had no inspiration to write. I didn’t post for about a year and I came back slowly. Most of the blogs/vlogs that I follow are beauty/fashion focused and I knew I didn’t want to do that because my make up skills are shit and my fashion is guided by comfort. I wanted to write about things with the right buzz words to be seen and then I got this great epiphany: Just write! And it was that simple. I feel so much happier now that I’m no longer worried about what niche I should belong to. And now I can write about what I’m most passionate about: ME! I’m just going to write and I hope whoever finds this blog loves it as much as I love it.