My series of terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days (Old post)

I just found this blog post in my drafts. I wrote this on July 6th 2015! I must have been going through a lot at the time but now I find it hilarious. I have changed jobs since then and everything is much better but still, Enjoy!


Frustrated businesswoman

Can’t deal

Stress and Lagos go hand in hand but it’s never really gotten to me until recently.  My days have been so busy and completely stressful. As if the scarcity and muddy shoes (thanks to the relentless rain) wasn’t enough, there was more. I worked seven full days in a row. No compensation. Nothing. And then back to work as usual on Monday without a break. I honestly thought I could feel my stress level rise to the point that I could feel it physically below my shoulders. I’m sure I even became a worse worker because I couldn’t be bothered with lots of things. I just wanted to do whatever work had been assigned to me and leave.

I’ve realised that my methods of “coping” with the stress were not even that good either, I’d go home and sleep for hours and wake up feeling exhausted with back pains too. I have eaten so much chocolate this week too, definitely unhealthy. I was also feeling sad constantly and spaced out during conversations. Just walking into the office I’d feel my pulse increase and possibly my blood pressure rising. I’m sure it sounds dramatic but it’s true.

So, in order not to be overwhelmed with job related stress, I made a tiny plan to help make the days a bit better

Try not over react. I try not to react to some things at all if I can help it. I don’t want to be in a situation where I lose my temper in public. It is very unlike me to lose my cool in public any way but having little or no reaction to the tiny things that annoy me guarantees a happier day.

Focus on a solution. Instead of spending my time at work with fantasies of quitting and waiting for closing time, I try to concentrate instead on doing my job exceptionally well and reserve the job seeking fantasies for after work.

Waking up earlier. I wake up at 5.30am and leave the house by 6.10am. I always leave the house in a rush that I can only properly catch my breath on the ride to work. By waking up earlier, I can take my time and get ready without the mad hurry.

Entertainment is Key. Lots of times I’m too busy or tired to read or watch anything. So I just get home, eat and sleep. Boring! Throw in an episode of Veep or Silicon Valley and everything is good.

Talk to loved one. Simple. This is so simple and important. Talking to my friends and family make days a bit better.


Your comments are very important to me, please leave a nice word or two xxx




Colouring outside the lines – Embracing my nicheless blog

My sweet nicheless blog

Before I begin, what is a niche? A Niche in blogging refers to creating a blog that is focused on specific content for a specific target audience. It is usually on one topic, weddings, fashion, parenting etc.

When I started this blog in 2015 (OMG), I struggled to find a niche. I strongly believed it was about writing what people wanted to read. I had difficulty trying to pin point what people wanted to read or what tone of voice I should use. Initially, my blog posts were about my relationship misadventures and things like that because I was a single lady and it would be fun to talk about my mishaps so people could find some joy in my misfortune. I wrote and kept my blog secret until one day, I was discovered by my husband while we were dating and I felt so embarrassed that I had talked about terrible love life in such detail. I felt that wasn’t who I was anymore and deleted the blog posts and left a few random ones.

I was stumped. I had no inspiration to write. I didn’t post for about a year and I came back slowly. Most of the blogs/vlogs that I follow are beauty/fashion focused and I knew I didn’t want to do that because my make up skills are shit and my fashion is guided by comfort. I wanted to write about things with the right buzz words to be seen and then I got this great epiphany: Just write! And it was that simple. I feel so much happier now that I’m no longer worried about what niche I should belong to. And now I can write about what I’m most passionate about: ME! I’m just going to write and I hope whoever finds this blog loves it as much as I love it.

Don’t let post wedding blues get you down

Post wedding blues

I’ve always believed that your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. I fully bought into this idea especially because I married the love of my life so of course it must be the greatest and happiest day ever. I had a vision for what the day would be like but the reality was so far from it. I remember at the end of the day at about 8pm, I was sitting in the best man’s car, waiting for my husband to be done so we could finally end the day and I just started crying. At that point, I was believed I had a truly miserable day. I still felt so bad a few days after then I did some research and discovered that what I was feeling was post wedding blues.

We had our wedding ceremony 9 months after we got engaged. I started planning almost immediately. I talked and thought of different aspects of this day almost every day for 9 months. I was so scared things would go wrong so I handed over many things to my Mother and I only thought about things that concerned my husband and I or my bridesmaids.

The weeks leading up to the wedding were so stressful because I had left most things to the last minute. I only got my dress 2 days before the wedding. My shoes didn’t arrive until the day before and I had a terrible cold on my wedding week.

We had our traditional, garden ceremony and reception on the same day. I knew this would be stressful but I had no idea. I started my day at 5.30am and by the time I was done, I didn’t get a chance to take a picture with my husband before we left the hotel. Looking back now, I wish we had relaxed and taken lots of pictures.

There was a subjectively terrible experience during the garden ceremony. This coupled with the fact that we had the ceremony outside at 2pm in the burning heat of Lagos was a bad idea. I cried all through the ceremony so there are also no pictures of us together during this part. Precious moments that weren’t captured.

Things started to get better during the reception. I was finally having fun. There were a few mishaps here too but because of the garden experience, these didn’t seem too bad. I was finally done with the ceremony. Finally, I am Mrs O.

It wasn’t until I had the breakdown in my car before the regrets came to me. I was sad because I felt we had spent too much money. I spent too much money on irrelevant things. I felt sad because of the pictures I didn’t get with my husband. Angry because somebody complained to me that she didn’t get desert. There were no fireworks during our first dance. I was too bloated and looked pregnant all day. I was angry with my dad for embarrassing me. I shouldn’t have used a wedding planner. So many other things I won’t mention because I don’t want to think about it. It has been a month and almost 2 weeks since the wedding. I’m not so sad about it but still a tiny bit angry sha, I won’t lie. Here are a few tips that have helped me feel better. I hope they can help you too

  • Remember that this is the beginning not the end. A lot of the sadness comes from the wedding being over but it’s only the beginning of a wonderful adventure as a wife. Think about this instead and look forward to future plans, anniversaries, birthdays, babies etc.
  • Unfollow all the wedding pages! I’m serious. It was one of the first things I did when I realized I had the blues and it helped me a lot was to unfollow all the wedding pages I used as inspiration for months leading to the wedding. Now that my timeline is relatively normal, I don’t see other people’s weddings and feel a twinge of jealousy.
  • Look at your friend’s photos and videos of the day. I don’t know how but this helped me so much because they were taken from an unprofessional perspective and captured real and truly happy moments
  • You can’t change anything by thinking about it. The sooner you accept, the better for your peace of mind
  • It is normal to feel this way. It’s just a wedding day not a reflection of your marriage


Just enjoy being married.

Look forward and don’t back 😉

Intermittent Fasting: To eat or not to eat?


Food o’clock

Two weeks ago, I found out about intermittent fasting or 16:8. If you’ve never heard of it, it simply means not eating for 16 hours and eating within the 8 hours. According to this plan, you stop eating by 8pm and start eating again by 12 noon the next day. This appealed to me greatly because it’s not a diet as there is no calorie restriction. It is a popular method for losing weight, increase energy levels, increase motivation and stamina, and also improve cognitive function. It may even protect against cancer. Just by fasting? Count me in!

I decided to try this fast to help get a handle on my sugar addiction and frequent snacking. Also because losing my pot belly won’t be a bad idea. I honestly think about food all the time and by food, I mean junk food. Even if I’m not hungry, I usually plan the next day’s meals in my head.

I thought this would be easy because there are days I eat like this anyway so how hard can it be? I even downloaded an app called Zero to keep track of when I started my fast and when I can start eating again.

I started my first day of fasting at 00:00 on Monday morning which meant that my fast would be broken at 4. I think this was a bad idea because I don’t remember the last time I fasted. I’ve never denied myself of food on purpose so I should have had a proper meal that evening but I didn’t, I had a can of Smirnoff Ice for dinner. At work that day, I was STARVING and my breath was so bad. I persevered and I rewarded myself with a sausage roll at 4pm and Chicken salad and fruit parfait by 5.30pm. I continued the rest of the week like this and it wasn’t that bad. The longest I did without food was 21 hours. This was outstanding for me. The major downside for me during this week was that I didn’t like that my breath wasn’t fresh and I couldn’t chew gum as I didn’t have sugar-free gum.

I’ve been at it for a week and a few days now and I haven’t lost any weight at all but here are a few positives

  • I’ve been able to reduce my Coca-cola intake. I’ve gone 5 days without coca-cola so far. I also haven’t had any candy/chocolate since I started
  • On weekends, most of my fasting can be done while sleeping. Wake up at 10am and eat at 12. Fasting done!
  • I’ve spent less on food these days since I really only have one meal
  • I’ve been drinking 2 liters of water daily to help with the hunger and that keeps me hydrated
  • I think my skin looks better

I’ll still keep at it. Hopefully I can keep this up. Have you ever tried it before? Let me know what you think!

Wedding rants #1


I have been M.I.A for a while and that’s simply because wedding planning is trying to kill me. I know planning a wedding is generally stressful but wedding planning in Lagos must be on another level. There’s so much to think about at all times. I really have no interest in weddings and now I’m being asked about colours? Themes?? Bridesmaids dresses??? Things I didn’t even realise needed to be thought about. I began the planning process in April even though I got engaged in March. The first thing I did based on the advice I got from others and the good people of the internet, was to hire a wedding planner. I thought it would be great because I HATE stress. I know nobody loves it but it’s like a disease to me. It takes away my sleep, my peace of mind, my appetite (haha, I’m kidding, I’ve never been too stressed to eat). When I was looking for a planner, I probably sent an email to like 10 Instagram wedding planners. I was shocked to say the least. I saw prices as high as 2 million Naira and as low as N500,000. I decided on one because she was polite and flexible with her prices. I also loved the pictures of the weddings she had on her page. It’s been about 5 months since and I’ve met with my planner just once or twice but we whatsapp when I need her. It’s not her fault but what I’ll advice is, go for a wedding planner that’s not just a one-man operation. Go for one that you know will be dedicated to you. Also, don’t be fooled by Instagram. I’ll suggest you avoid Instagram if you’re on a budget because they can make you feel poor.

The second thing we did was to secure a hall. This wasn’t hard because we did it with months to spare. 8 months to our wedding actually. I knew I wanted this hall because it had a garden and it’s large so we sorted it out in a few days. As soon as we got the hall, we started looking for a decorator and they are expensive! (I know this is the point I keep harping on about but I mean, I was shocked at how much weddings cost in general). If you are like me, you’ve been saving pictures to your Instagram collections and adding to your pintrest boards. You’ve been following Nwandossignature events, ballevents, btgdecor, aquariantouch etc. If I ever find myself in the wedding business, it’ll probably be in décor after I heard how much money they charge. I decided to call them myself because I was afraid my planner would introduce me to decorators that will charge me my annual salary. The highest price I recall was 2.5 million Naira and the cheapest was about a million. I eventually had to go to my wedding planner to save me. We were able to find a fantastic decorator, who I thought was a bit pricey too but the decor is not something I want to be cheap about. I honestly don’t care if food does’t go round, as long as their selfies are lit. Hahaha.

Third thing was to secure a make up artist. I had already done my homework so I knew that the Instagram make up artists that I follow weren’t affordable for me. So I started calling. I called about 5 make up artists and they were already booked for the date. A date 8 months away?!?! Sigh. So my wedding planner called her contacts and we are able to find one that I liked and I paid my deposit immediately to avoid wahala. (The make up artist has changed now but this is gist for another day).

After this, my wedding planner brought to my attention that I hadn’t gotten a photographer and videographer and these also get booked pretty fast in Lagos. I emailed and called about 20 photographers and I’m not exaggerating. I think my problem is I have Dom Pérignon tastes but Andre budget. So as you can guess, those that I initially messaged were in their millions to 700 thousand. These are fine prices too but still out of budget. I accepted my fate and messaged some that I also liked and were really good. I had so many options and it was tough making a decision but I did and I love who we went with. My other option is a young man whose pictures are stunning. He’s very easy to talk to, understanding, and affordable too. I highly recommend this photographer. He is @806photography on Instagram. Getting the videographer was easy. Not much to be said there.

I’ll continue my rant in another post. Thank you for reading!

TV Shows I’m rooting for at the 2017 EMMY awards

The 2017 Emmy awards is airing this Sunday, September 17 and I’m so excited because one of my faves, Stephen Colbert will be hosting. I’m also really excited because some shows I feel strongly about have been nominated. Westworld was all I could talk about while it was on, it is sincerely one of the best shows made and kept me on my toes throughout the season. So it’s no surprise it had the most nominations across the board at 22. I just finished watching Stranger things this August and I honestly wasn’t so impressed. I think my expectations were too high and it was a bit too horrific for me so I was surprised to see it had the third highest number of nominations with 18 nominations across board. I guess you guys really liked the show.

I’m about to go in with my picks to win a few categories. I suggest you get comfy with my Emmy viewing snack of choice, Waffles, a tribute to Eleven (Break out star of Stranger things). Here’s a link to a simple yet delicious recipe for waffles. All the items can be easily found in any Nigerian supermarket


Comfy? Okay, let’s begin.


Westworld is a science fiction western thriller based on the 1973 film of the same name, which was written and directed by American novelist Michael Crichton. The first season had only ten episodes. Season 2 will debut sometime in 2018.


The story takes place in an amusement park with very human like android hosts. They are so lifelike that once can’t tell the difference between human and the hosts by their appearance. The park is wild west themed so expect a few cowboys and other wild west tropes. The guests at the park can do anything in Westworld without consequences so you can imagine the wild adventures they can get up to. This was one of my favourite shows this year so I guess it goes without saying that Westworld is my pick to win in the drama series category. The other nominees in the category are

This Is Us
The Crown
The Handmaid’s Tale
The Leftovers
House of Cards
Stranger Things
Better Call Saul

I think this will be a really tough category because all these shows are awesome but I think the competition is mostly between This is us, Stranger things and Westworld. Westworld is my choice to win but I have a feeling it’ll go to This is Us.

Evan Rachel Wood (the beautiful Dolores) was nominated in the Drama actress category. Fingers crossed for her but I really don’t see her winning this because the other nominees are so strong. I see it going to Elisabeth Moss (the handmaid’s tale) or Viola Davis (How to get away with murder).


Dolores Abernathy and William

There were two stand out performers in the show. The first being from Bernard (Jeffrey Wright) with the plot twist for the ages. No one saw it coming. I don’t want to go into details about it but I highly recommend this show. And he is my pick for the Supporting Actor in a drama for his stellar performance. Other nominees in this category are

John Lithgow, The Crown
Ron Cephas Jones, This Is Us
Mandy Patinkin, Homeland
Jonathan Banks, Better Call Saul
David Harbour, Stranger Things
Michael Kelly, House of Cards


Bernard (Left)

The second stand out performer was Maeve (Thandie Newton). Her acting was so real and felt so raw sometimes. Maeve is an android host and one of the first to question her reality. And become self aware. I strongly believe Thandie will win the Supporting actress category. She was outstanding. Other nominees in this category are

Uzo Aduba, Orange Is the New Black
Millie Bobby Brown, Stranger Things
Ann Dowd, The Handmaid’s Tale
Chrissy Metz, This Is Us
Samira Wiley, The Handmaid’s Tale


Veep is an political satire comedy TV show starring Julia Louis-Dreyfus. It is as an adaptation of the British sitcom The Thick of It. The series follows Selina Meyer,a fictional Vice President, and (briefly) the President, of the United States. The series follows the adventures of her and her team member’s funny and sometimes unfortunate attempts to make a mark. The last season aired from April – June 2017. Its final season will premiere in 2018.


It was nominated in the Comedy category and I think this is another tough category because all the shows nominated are all amazing but I have to say, Veep is the most outstanding. It’s one of the best TV shows ever written. Selina Meyer is consistently an Idiot and Gary is the star of the show. Veep will win this category. Shout out to Titus Andromedon (Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt), it must be a lot of work carrying the show on your back. Other nominees in the comedy cateegoty are

Master of None
Modern Family
Silicon Valley
Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt
Gary (Tony Hale and Mike (Matt Walsh ) were nominated in the supporting actor category. Gary is the winner for me in this category. Other nominees in  this category are

Louie Anderson, Baskets
Alec Baldwin, Saturday Night Live
Tituss Burgess, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt
Ty Burrell, Modern Family
Julia Louis-Dreyfus (Selina Meyer) is also my pick to win in the comedy actress category. The other nominees in this category are

Pamela Adlon, Better Things
Jane Fonda, Grace and Frankie
Allison Janney, Mom
Ellie Kemper, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt
Tracee Ellis Ross, Black-ish
Lily Tomlin, Grace and Frankie


Big little lies


This mini series is based on a phenomenal book written by the magnificent Liane Moriarty. I fell in love with the book and I fell even deeper in love with the miniseries. Everyone involved did such a great job, the child actors, professional actors, the directing and even the music selection was remarkable. This is the clear winner for me in the limited/mini series category. Please watch it if you haven’t already. Other nominees in this category are
Feud: Bette and Joan
The Night Of

The stand out performance for me was from Alexander Skarsgard. He played Perry, a violet and hypersexual married to Nichole Kidman’s character. He was the worst and he played the role so well I’m still trying not to picture him as a demon. He will definitely win the best supporting actor in a  TV MOVIE/LIMITED SERIES. If he doesn’t, I’ll shave my head (of course not but that’s how sure i am). The other nominees in his category are

Bill Camp, The Night Of
Alfred Molina, Feud: Bette and Joan
David Thewlis, Fargo
Stanley Tucci, Feud: Bette and Joan
Michael Kenneth Williams, The Night Of


Thanks for reading! Please comment your favourites and picks to win in the 2017 Emmy awards, I really want to know your thoughts xx




Standard “I’m back” Post

So, I’m back by popular demand (haha, not really. Nobody reads this blog. Apart from me, obviously).

Although it has been a few months since my last post, this blog has been constantly on my mind but a lot of things have changed since the time I started the blog and now (things like me no longer being single and starting my natural hair journey. More to come). My life now functions with the same sequence as if it’s an assembly line. I barely have time to be the spontaneous chap I used to be (Lies, I am the opposite of spontaneous. What does that even mean?)

Oh well, here I am. I will start small and not make elaborate promises but one thing is might be sure. I will may be posting here weekly!

Thank you for your time.